We often talk about the importance of different subjects. We can have our special interest and inclination to a certain subject. It is good to choose any subject that suits personal characteristics, interests. And this may also depend on the need of society and our circumstances.
Learning language, mathematics, some norms, and procedures … are useful to us.How to study?
The study can be easier and more fun. Sometimes it can be stressful or boring. Attending school/college regularly may be helpful to make study easier. Making notes, repeating the previous classes/topics, preparing for upcoming classes may also help score more.
Spending time for some light fun may be ok. But spending time on something harmful or wasting may push us back in our achievement. So, let’s be careful.
Sometimes discussing with friends, making special mnemonics, extra class/practices may make us learn even the so-called difficult topics.
Balance your personal life. Even when in college/school, keep in touch with family and relatives, to the extent it is possible. It may be worth keeping in touch with society through some activities. During college time, working on extra skills like sports or music or another talent may also be good.
Utilize time and resources well. Respect yourself, respect others. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Sometimes some tough situations may come, and life has to be familiar to deal with many challenges. Challenges are meant to make us better.
[One of the most popular study techniques is 'Feynman technique'- study/prepare in such a way that you are going to teach, you have to make other/ordinary/expert people understand the topic]
What thing school may not teach us?
Some important lessons are learned in school. We do learn many things. But we sometimes may not learn other important things about our life in college. We have to learn those things from observations, or from family, or from society or from literature, etc.
Something is learned through doing/working, something is learned from parents, something is learned from teachers, something is from situations, something is from friends, and something is learned from literature or visiting places. And something may be learned from intuition or maybe in dreams.
Which thing do I need to learn: dealing with different people, decision-making skills, interpersonal skills, public speaking skills, honesty, time management..? And maybe others – reading, writing, speaking, listening.
Some basic skills like cooking, gardening, driving, dealing with different people, etc. may not be taught in schools. Sometimes dealing with tough situations or taking crucial decisions may not be taught in college/school.
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[A person who is there for you in your good and bad times is a friend].
If you are a student in school, and your friends today are responsible citizens of tomorrow. You are one of them.
Friends can be a source of learning and sharing good moments. With friends, we can visit different places. We can learn, talk, and do some business.
Different friends can have different opinions on any topic. They may have a different approach to deal with it. Some may be more knowledgeable in a particular field. They can have some good experience of a particular thing. Some can have more interest in other fields. Someone can be gifted with extra talent which can really help make the class/society better. We should utilize it.
Friends can be a source of learning and sharing good moments. With friends, we can visit different places. We can learn, talk, and do some business.
Different friends can have different opinions on any topic. They may have a different approach to deal with it. Some may be more knowledgeable in a particular field. They can have some good experience of a particular thing. Some can have more interest in other fields. Someone can be gifted with extra talent which can really help make the class/society better. We should utilize it.
Friends are helpers. And also they are competitors. Some competitors may be more open and fair, while some may not be so.
Today's friends can become future - business partner, life partner, etc.
Today's friends can become future - business partner, life partner, etc.
Friends are not just friends, they can have multiple avatars/forms like -a teacher (they teach you the ideas/lessons/skills they know, 'be fully involved in your task, make the best out of it, learn something useful, do something new or better/outstanding, if you can't do something new just imitate what others/colleagues do'), a guru or moral educator or a police ('don't speak silly/negative stuff/lie/untruth, don't cheat others, don't be over greedy, share your blessings/surplus with others (pay tax), love all hate none, mind your business, live the moment not the past memory or future imagination, just observe do not react, be thankful, live peacefully/joyfully/blissfully, you yourself are amazing, seek within'), a parent ('take care of health, eat healthy and on time, don't spend time with bad guys, take care of your budget/don't waste resources, work well, see others doing better than you/be better than others (should we worry much at others' progress?), do something good for yourself and for others, get best for you, don't give your stuff to others'). [It seems that I have almost all sorts of friends!]
They can also be a role model. Discipline and honesty can be learned from some friends.
Siblings are also like friends. Friends are also like siblings. Even people having similar genetic components can have differences. It's the beauty if people have something uncommon. It's good if they have some similarities.
Parents and children can also be like friends to some extent. They are there for you, your progress and joy. They are your well wishers. They are your critics, guide and supporters. They accept you without judgement. Teachers are also like friends to some extent. (Mind can also be a friend or an enemy.)
People often emphasize choosing a good friend or having a good friendship.
What do you think of it? What experience do you have with your friends? What should be the norms of friendship? What should be a healthy boundary? Can there be 'fair weather friends'?
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Which work to do? Which business to do? How to earn?
There can be different choices. Either we wish to do what our parents do/did, or do we want to do something else. Choosing any business/work is good. Either way by working in a government office, or personal small or big business, or in other company, any of the way we can help ourselves and our society.
Any field like – agriculture, management, machinery, restaurant, tourism, driving, education, yoga, health, banking, other social, … etc. – can be OK. There can be other fields as well.
For any field, first, we may learn basics, and then we keep upgrading, experiencing, and earning more. For any field, learning attitude, helping/co-working, honesty, time management, knowing boundaries, collaborating, etc. may help.
Working in any field of special interest may keep us happy. There can be nothing as such very difficult or very easy. Practice and persistence may help.
Either we can get a job for ourselves, or we can give more jobs to others. Either is good.
Money or instrument are tools/means, they should be utilized well. Wasting may not help. But some saving or some kind of charity to bring good changes in the life of people in the community may bring a huge return.
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Marriage
When to marry? Whom to marry
Usually marrying is allowed after a certain age. In some places there is a tradition of early marriage, marrying even before the twenties. This is particularly risky to the girls/mothers if they try to have babies early. Hence it is worth avoiding. Having many children may also be unmanageable. And having children at a later age may also be difficult.
Hence marrying should be based on sound decision making. Before marrying, both girls and boys (or whatever their gender identity is) should have learned some basics of human life - basic skills to work and earn to manage life. If they learn/study some advanced skills, that may be a great idea.
Marrying should be based on some right combination. Based on the norms of society and family culture, should not be against the law. Some societies can have some bad practices like dowry. Giving some gifts is ok, but asking for heavy dowry is shameful, stressful.
Some may not marry at all. Living that way may also be possible.
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Different scientific inventions and businesses have helped society move forward. Development in agriculture, industry, living condition,.. have made our lives better. Social reform is an important aspect of society. It shapes everyone's a better life in society.
We have some social reformers in Nepal like Sankhadhar Sakhwa and Kirat Dharma Guru Falgunanda etc. are some among others.
Anil Chitrakar also reports some reforms that happened in Nepal. In earlier times public properties were managed to help people in difficulty.
I came to know some interesting reforms made by Beveridge and Bismark and their companions. These are worth learning. Their idea of social security has made their social life better. That may be a reason many people tend to live in countries where social security is ensured.
Some modern leaders have also worked to make reforms to ensure the rights of everyone, ensuring equity and justice.
Buddha said, there are problems, and there are solutions. Modern development agendas like SDGs are also aimed to address the problems. Development is an ongoing process.
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Spiritualism: what does it mean to you? How it may be useful?
Our inner essence is that we all are the same members of nature. Our physical body's life span is limited no matter whatever identity we think of.
Spiritualism may be seeking and adopting inner values: brotherhood, respect to faiths, non-stealing, non-hoarding, no harm to self and others, helping the people in trouble, and not merely focusing achievement on the basis of materials.
This may be an approach for respect, peace, and bliss. Religions and social service organizations are supposed to adopt spiritual values.
👉 Declaration of Life
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